tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8334630318757421721.post4234320605984509123..comments2023-10-26T04:42:50.820-07:00Comments on Garden Girl: Get yourself a good Weight Maintenance Support Group- one that has good internet moderation- I recommend Half Size Me Heather Karenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06454945489632370863noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8334630318757421721.post-49021791883167505922015-10-10T07:04:00.525-07:002015-10-10T07:04:00.525-07:00Kerstin, support is the best. My slippery slope th...Kerstin, support is the best. My slippery slope thinking would get the best of me. Nothing like having another person to connect with and focused. Thank you very much!!!! We need more long term mentors around. Each persons's weight maintenance template will be slightly different, however there will be much overlap. <br /><br />Putting ourselves in groupings with like minded ( and likely genetically similar) folks who are getting the results that we want is important. So many times the transition to weight maintenance is muddled with challenges that must be addressed. No better people than successful maintainers that are 2-3 years plus into the process. Good luck!!!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06454945489632370863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8334630318757421721.post-58364179743162513242015-10-09T21:24:44.859-07:002015-10-09T21:24:44.859-07:00Hi Karen! I am still a long way from maintenance b...Hi Karen! I am still a long way from maintenance but for the first time ever I signed up for a 10-week support group with a private FB page and weekly phone-ins and text messaging. It's made a difference in keeping me on track when things get a little tough. As and when I am ready to enter maintenance I will for sure be on the look-out for a group like yours. You are a great mentor yourself! Kerstinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10684657181509439771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8334630318757421721.post-52145360325157931902015-09-07T15:38:56.599-07:002015-09-07T15:38:56.599-07:00I'm in so now you can see my picture! : )I'm in so now you can see my picture! : )Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17817568743485129053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8334630318757421721.post-31343770150845496902015-09-07T10:06:05.989-07:002015-09-07T10:06:05.989-07:00see you over there.. :)see you over there.. :)Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06454945489632370863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8334630318757421721.post-49421719330956937782015-09-07T09:37:36.697-07:002015-09-07T09:37:36.697-07:00Vickie- that must have been so hard. I learned the...Vickie- that must have been so hard. I learned the hard way, that by side bar blog surfing from my regular blogs I list, that all those people were not my friends. For some of them, typically ,they could not do it themselves so off to smear the others who could, would , or were making their way. Make a few suggestions and blam-o you are the weirdo. Not true. Too many miles down denial road for them and normal helpful things cause a ruckus.<br /><br />I've had more people sabotage me to my face and say just horrific things. It gives me a chance to set them straight about the facts for me. Then for me to observe their reactions and decide if I want to deal with their specific issue. Are they listening? Are they on my side? Are they operating from a place of narcissism, disorder, or basic adulting skilIs and lack even basic emotional intelligence? I steer clear of the food pushers and weird comments as much as possible<br /><br />The behind the back stuff is worse. Ladies, if you are going to the bathroom to snark on me in person, do a shoe check and see if I'm in there. <br /><br />I was an obese child in the 1970's. I was alone. Nothing anyone can say or do as an adult can knock me down. The stuff said to me then was just crappy. People meant well, but their words and actions were quite harmful. I'll blog about it at some point.<br /><br />Glad you were a lone voice. With the advances in food addiction and the shift to real, whole foods, we should not be alone voices for long. If I could require everyone who SAYS they want to maintain their weight to customize the Refuse to Regain rules from the book(Barbara Berkeley, MD), I would do that. Put the walk into the the talk. Don't TELL us, SHOW us. <br /><br />We just need better weight management tools and better customization.<br /><br />My work will discount me $40 a month to maintain my weight loss. But a 6 session free consult with a life coach is not adequate. We are talking 1-3 years of deep, deep habit changes, coaching , and customization- IMO. <br /><br />Glad you are talking about how hard it was. We all owe all you lone bloggers and long timers a lot.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06454945489632370863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8334630318757421721.post-1889546965503286742015-09-07T07:55:20.504-07:002015-09-07T07:55:20.504-07:00With all your caveats, it still looks great. I am ...With all your caveats, it still looks great. I am doing the trial membership. Thank you again for all you do on your blog to share your maintenance. Through you I found the Low Carb Dietician's blog, which I love, especially for its evidence-based approach. She doesn't dumb things down, and I really like that. I know from her site that she is a true expert willing to admit she doesn't have all the answers (I never trust anyone--especially in their professional lives--who will not admit some degree of humility). Through her site I found Jenny Ruhl's book about low carb diets, which I read this weekend. Now that has been a game changer and eye opener for me. Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17817568743485129053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8334630318757421721.post-75143418621462912232015-09-07T07:17:00.911-07:002015-09-07T07:17:00.911-07:00I am sure I have mentioned this - in (I think) 200...I am sure I have mentioned this - in (I think) 2007 I was looking very hard for other maintainers. A blog, a person in real life, a group. I just wanted someone to give me the straight scoop. I just wanted to KNOW. And at that time, super hard to find. <br /><br />Very glad you found something that works. And it sounds very interesting, good fit. <br /><br />One of the biggest issues I had was actually in 2009 when I decided to drop more weight. I took a lot of flack for that, in blog land and in real life. One of the people I had the most trouble with was an instructor/trainer I knew well, in real life. She was very fit and thin (no disordered thinking, she was just in great shape). It was as if that was okay for her, but not for me. It was as if I was to stay in the slightly overweight category and not enter her territory. She wasn't the only one. I had problems with people in the thin category I was entering, problems with the slightly overweight category. Problems with the overweight/obese category. And problems with the regainers. No, I was not finding a lot of support. (That is probably when I should have gone private with my blog). <br /><br />It might be that great groups were out there, but I was not finding them at that time. <br /><br />I learned to be a lone voice, I guess. Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05452333714845476967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8334630318757421721.post-41378977346981823562015-09-07T06:42:57.026-07:002015-09-07T06:42:57.026-07:00Suzanne, I do like the format of the group. I use ...Suzanne, I do like the format of the group. I use the FB groups the most. There are two, one for paying members only for maintenance. One for non-paying members for maintenance. Then some paying and non-paying break out FB groups. <br /><br />I find that within Paleo/Primal there is a less focus on weight, that's cool and as it should be, but I'm just so much better physically and mentally with my tiny bone frame and a middle of the BMI range weight maintenance. Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06454945489632370863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8334630318757421721.post-64260690824616393642015-09-07T06:38:30.994-07:002015-09-07T06:38:30.994-07:00Ali, thanks. Don't get me wrong, it's not ...Ali, thanks. Don't get me wrong, it's not the biggest abstaining or Paleo or LCHF area out there. But it is one of the largest organized on line and moderated places for weight maintenance. Heather is a moderate, eater herself, yet you will find the traits that others deep in maintenance (Heather is one or two months ahead of me so 3.5 years plus). <br /><br />No matter what your style ( and there will be many due to geneotype and phenotype differences- as it should be), if you want to keep vary low variance of +/-5 or +/-10 or even +/- 15 lbs (the more weight you lost, it seems the higher the normal variance at or around goal weight) then it pays to pay a little for the experience of other maintainers. <br /><br />With that you'll get younger/older folks. Everyone is very nice. We are all focused on our own stuff. There's a lot outside of food template that is common. For example there are lots of walkers (some runners, too). If I'm having binge urge thoughts, I can say that. Or a difficult situation I don't want to put on the blog- I can talk there. We talk about goals for the month.<br /><br />Anyhoo, it is what it is. I do think Heather is also a good coach. She's really super wise to some of the family dynamics, to the sabotage, the habits that keep you at a higher weight when a few habit changes and old methods of coping are tripping you up. It's a good safe place.<br /><br />It's over due in the weight maintenance space. And affordable. And no shenanigans. <br /><br />Yeah, I can see how other groups might have pieces of what you need, but are not comprehensive.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06454945489632370863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8334630318757421721.post-35223166834016424352015-09-06T18:34:07.142-07:002015-09-06T18:34:07.142-07:00Sounds interesting I'll have to check her out!...Sounds interesting I'll have to check her out! ThanksWWSuzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14200582568720343436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8334630318757421721.post-21038289893796354852015-09-06T17:29:27.939-07:002015-09-06T17:29:27.939-07:00Karen, this looks fantastic!!!! Oh my gosh, thank ...Karen, this looks fantastic!!!! Oh my gosh, thank you for sharing. I am going to check into this most definitely. When I started out I worked with an exercise physiologist. She was great but wanted me to maintain at a level too high (I was fairly heavy when I started seeing her). She did help me tremendously for about a year to get my exercise mojo back after I dealt with bad knees.<br /><br />Then I tried an online fitness trainer. That was the worst mistake ever. I had to pay money, and she and I were not compatible. I felt the exercises she gave me were way too easy and her approach was based on calories in and calories out for the most part.<br /><br />I recently joined a group program more for the fitness videos than anything else. It is a general year long program with new videos and eating ideas each month. I basically disregard the eating because the person preaches moderation and she can get great results from less exercise than I can. But the exercise videos are very good.<br /><br />This site just looks wonderful for all the reasons you listed!Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17817568743485129053noreply@blogger.com